Is Your Relationship Making You Miserable?
- Are you fed up with constant fighting, bickering or the silent treatment?
- Do you feel judged or misunderstood by your partner, and fear being criticized or blamed?
- Are you struggling to trust your partner and/or feeling unsupported or insecure in your relationship?
- Does your relationship feel increasingly distant, empty and stagnant, especially as physical intimacy fades away?
- After an affair or another betrayal, do you wonder if there is any hope to save your relationship?
- Do you wish you and your partner could learn new ways to communicate calmly and honestly, removing doubts, fears and resentment once and for all?
It can be extremely frustrating to feel trapped in a negative cycle of tension or dissatisfaction. It may be that you want to feel closer to your partner, but they crave more space. When you do find time for one another, phones or computers may take up your attention, leaving you feeling even lonelier than before. You may even have begun to lose sight of what brought you together in the first place.
Do you want a relationship that has intimacy, passion and fun, yet worry that your current partnership might be on the brink of failure?
Almost Every Couple Experiences Relationship Problems
If you’re struggling in your relationship, you are far from alone. In fact, relationship issues are one of the most common reasons people seek therapy.
Although disagreements are a natural part of any relationship, many couples don’t know how to resolve conflict productively and respectfully. Instead, many resort to saying hurtful things or avoiding speaking altogether. While partners may not mean to wound one another, most people lack the communication skills needed to nurture a lasting bond.
It may be that you don’t really know what a healthy relationship should look and feel like. Or, perhaps you and/or your partner need to work through past pains or deep emotions in order to move forward with your relationship.
The good news is that regardless of your particular relationship problems, there are ways to love and heal. A skilled and understanding couples therapist can help you identify the negative cycles you may be trapped in, develop effective communication skills and form a healthy attachment in your relationship.
You and your partner can move forward with more compassion, confidence and clarity.
Couples Therapy Can Help You Build A Healthy Relationship
In the safe space of therapy sessions, you and your partner can get to the root of your relationship issues. You can connect on a deeper level and learn the tools and skills needed to work through conflict, better understand each other and navigate challenges from a foundation of love.
In sessions, I will collaborate with you, compassionately helping you learn to recognize and reframe how each of you contribute to the relationship dynamic. Once you identify unproductive patterns of behavior, you can start to replace them with more empathetic and productive ways of relating.
When communication feels difficult, I can help you both slow down, calm heightened emotions and speak to your partner with patience and respect. I will also help you learn to listen so that each of you feels seen and heard.
In resolving conflict, we’ll focus on finding mutually satisfactory solutions. For example, I can help you deal with co-parenting effectively, finding compromise and letting go of resentment. You can begin living in the present and planning for the future, establishing boundaries and commitments that you both can honor.
Most couples approach the onset of relationship counseling in a very vulnerable and often hopeless place, and it can be hard to reach out for help. However, many credit couples counseling as being the best thing they have done for themselves and their relationship.
I’ve been a relationship and sex therapist for over 30 years and am certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (ASSECT). When couples come to see me, talking about sex is talking about part of your relationship. As I work with you, I’ll draw from a vast supply of experience and expertise, adapting my skills to help you become more physically and emotionally intimate.
If you and your partner are committed to rebuilding your bond, then I am committed to helping you do it. You can transform your relationship and your life.
You still may have questions and concerns about couples counseling…
I’ve heard that couples therapy can be expensive and time consuming.
It can be helpful to think of the time and money you spend in couples or marriage counseling as an investment in your relationship, your future and in your overall well-being. Counseling is a way to help restore and protect the long-term health of your relationship—and rekindle the romantic connection you desire. To be honest, going through a divorce is more expensive, and almost guaranteed to turn your world upside down.
I’m worried I’m going to be blamed for our relationship problems.
One person is not responsible for all the relationship problems. In fact, every couple has patterns and cycles of behavior that they create and sustain together. Couples counseling can help you identify the ways you both contribute to ineffective patterns and help you find new, productive ways to move forward in your relationship.
I don’t want to talk about my relationship with a stranger.
Although I may be a stranger now, I am eager to get to know you and your partner, and to help you express your honest selves. It is my job to put you at ease in the comfortable and confidential space of couples therapy sessions. Our conversations are strictly confidential, professional and solution-focused, without judgment.
I will offer ongoing support and guidance as we identify, explore and address your relationship problems. With the third-party insight of a highly skilled and experienced couples counselor and a willingness to self-explore, you and your partner can feel more confident, connected, open and empowered in your relationship.
What if my partner and I decide to end our relationship?
If you decide to end your relationship, I can help you do so in a mutually respectful and productive manner. I’ll help you plan for the future and figure out how to best help children, family members and friends cope with your transition.
You Can Feel Confident And Secure In Your Relationship
Call (202) 463-7188 or email [email protected] today for an appointment at my Washington, DC, Dupont Circle practice. We can a set up an initial meeting where you’ll be able to relax in a comfortable environment, ask questions and learn about the benefits of working with a couples therapist.