"Over the course of three years, I utilized Susan's services in a variety of individual, couples and group therapy. She was instrumental in helping me work through a wide range of issues, including sexual abuse, an absent father and poverty during my childhood; long-term vulvodynia (pain during intercourse) and its effect on my marriage; as well as practical day-to-day troubles and career guidance. Susan acted as the hub of my medical and psychiatric care, recommending me to reputable specialists and, most importantly, helping me deal with the emotional toll of my treatment plan. Thanks to Susan's unwavering commitment to my well-being, today I finally enjoy a 'bigger life' and feel like a whole complete person."
Are You Searching For A More Fulfilling Sex Life?
- Does sex feel painful, uncomfortable or dull, no matter how much attraction or affection you feel?
- Do you struggle with issues surrounding arousal, erections, lack of orgasm, premature or delayed ejaculations or something else?
- Have you survived sexual abuse and now wonder how to find healing, trust and pleasure?
- Are you frustrated by a libido mismatch in your relationship, and tired of feeling either pressured or rejected?
- Have you started to wonder about opening your relationship and have questions about ethical non-monogamy?
- Are you already in a consensually non-monogamous or polyamorous relationship, and want non-judgmental guidance from someone who understands alternative relationship structures?
- Do you wish you could communicate freely and openly about sexuality without shame or fear of judgment?
Sex is a fundamental part of life. It can be deeply satisfying and exciting, but also uncomfortable, frightening, disappointing and even traumatic.
Maybe you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, and now you’re distressed by how much your connection and passion have faded. Or perhaps you have never had a fulfilling sexual partnership and wonder if you ever will. You might have questions about your sexuality or doubts about monogamy and feel you have nobody to talk to. Or, maybe you don’t know why you feel so confused, but believe that there must be more to sex.
Nobody Talks About Sexual Shame And Pain
Statistically, at least 50 to 60 percent of people will struggle with sexual relationships at some point in their lives. However, because Western culture so often stigmatizes sex, many people are uncomfortable sharing their questions, dissatisfactions and fantasies with others.
Although it might seem like the majority of people have a consistently healthy and pleasurable relationship with sex, this just isn’t true. Sexual experiences vary widely, influenced by age, body image, family history, sexual history, relationship history, medical issues and more.
Sexual desires are also incredibly diverse and nuanced. No two people experience sex exactly the same way—nor should they!
For the most part, there is absolutely nothing wrong with sexual differences. However, as an experienced sex therapist, I do encounter some common issues that cause people worry, embarrassment and frustration. These include:
- A lack or loss of sexual desire
- Painful intercourse
- Erection or arousal issues
- Premature, delayed or elusive orgasms
- Feelings of shame or embarrassment about sexual functioning or body image
- Low libido, very high libido and mismatched libidos in a relationship
- Compulsive sexual behavior
- Questions about sexuality
- Questions about kinks and fetishes
- Questions about starting a polyamorous relationship (or an otherwise consensually non-monogamous relationship)
Regardless of what you’re struggling with, help is available. With sex-positive therapy, you can learn to better understand and talk openly about distressing experiences and foster a healthier relationship with sex.
Sex Therapy Can Provide You With Support, Guidance And Relief
It’s possible to better understand, manage and enjoy your experience of sex.
The first step to overcoming sexual issues is to face them head on. While talking about your experience of sex can be daunting at first, sex therapy provides you with the space to speak honestly and openly, without fear of judgment. Sessions are your time to unload your worries and get to the root of your current issues, whether medical, psychological, physical or a combination of all three. Then, you can learn effective tools and skills needed to better understand your relationship with sex and feel empowered to create a more satisfying sex life.
A key part of sex counseling is feeling connected and comfortable with your therapist. In our sessions, we’ll work together collaboratively and compassionately. Once we understand your specific emotional triggers, we can develop effective strategies to break through blocks and help you meet your therapy and sexual goals. For example, I’ll help you learn to recognize and reframe ineffective thought cycles so that you make choices based in excitement and desire, rather than shame or fear.
I am a sex therapist who is authentic, accessible, sympathetic and knowledgeable about your experience. I have seen therapy transform the lives of all kinds of people, and I believe that, together, we can find your unique path toward a healthy and fulfilling relationship with sex.
You still may have questions or concerns about sex therapy…
I don’t want to talk about sex with a stranger.
Speaking about sex is still somewhat taboo in our society. And, speaking about sex with a stranger can be daunting.
That said, speaking to a sex therapist is not like speaking to a friend or family member, nor is it quite like opening up to a stranger. I have helped countless people create better sex lives, which means there is very little that surprises me. You will not be judged or shamed in my office. In fact, many people find that speaking about their sexual issues is an unburdening experience.
Furthermore, our conversations are strictly confidential and professional. You only have to share what you are ready to share.
I’m afraid my sexual practices are abnormal.
“Normal” is a word we use often, but it’s almost impossible to pin down what “normal” sexual practices are. Certainly, it’s not for me to say what normal is or isn’t.
My job, rather, is to listen, judgment free, and help you figure out what you like and what you don’t. You’re likely to find that speaking to a therapist helps you develop clarity around your desires and feelings. Once you understand yourself, you can start to make changes that honor your wants and needs.
How do I know that sex therapy is going to work?
I have been working as a therapist for over 30 years and am certified by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (ASSECT). There are very few guarantees in life, but I have seen great success with people who commit to therapy.
If you engage in the therapy process openly and honestly, it can be highly effective and rewarding. You can find long-term sexual satisfaction and relief.
You Can Have A Healthy, Satisfying Relationship With Sex
It’s possible to live a more balanced life, free from guilt and shame.
Call (202) 463-7188 or email [email protected] today for an appointment at my Washington, DC, Dupont Circle practice. We can a set up an initial meeting where you’ll be able to relax in a comfortable environment, ask questions and learn about the benefits of working with an ASSECT therapist.